Do not judge and you will not be judged.
Forgive and you will be forgiven.
Give and it will be given to you.
Luke 6: 37-38

22 August 2015

Will money last until pay day?

Are You an Enabling Parent?

Here are a few questions that might help you determine if you are an enabling parent.

  1. Have you loaned him money repeatedly, seldom (if ever) being repaid? 
  2. Have you paid bills he was supposed to have paid himself?
  3. Have you accepted part of the blame for his addictions or behavior?
  4. Have you avoided talking about negative issues because you feared his response?
  5. Have you begun to worry that the financial burden is more than you can bear?
  6. Have you given him "one more chance" and then another and another?
  7. Have you wondered how he gets money to buy cigarettes, video games, new clothes, smart phones and such but can't afford to pay his own bills?
If you answered yes to these questions, chances are at some point you have enabled your adult child to avoid his own responsibilities—to escape the consequences of his actions. Rather than help your child grow into a productive and responsible adult, you have made it easier for him to get worse.

What to do?
We can pray for the power to change ourselves.
We can help (not enable) adult children of any age develop wings to fly on their own.
We can find comfort in knowing we are not alone on this journey.
We can take back our life!
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I was born in France and brought up as a catholic. After the traumatic divorce of my parents, I moved to England and became a lost sheep. However I was convinced that I was 'a good person' until I fell in a muddy pit in July 2005 after taking decisions without seeking God's Word for guidance.  I cried out to the Lord and He heard me. I was rescued and redeemed by Jesus-Christ my saviour. He has turned my life around. 
I live blissfully with my husband Steven,  a c.o.e. vicar, near Stafford (UK). We are the proud parents of three loving daughters, I am also a step-mum, I have an amazing family including a step mum, two brothers and two sister and a dear sister-in-law and her children and grand-children, lots of cousins and eleven nephews and nieces. We live near Stafford in the UK.